Where do we come from?

We are who we are because of where we come from. My god, so many W's. Bear with me. This is a good one. This is something that I have heard people say a lot, but I finally understand what it means. Theory padhi thi ab practically samajh aaya hai. You may agree to disagree but what I have come to understand is that who we are is heavily and I can't stress enough but extremely heavily dependent on our family background. When I say family background, I mean how are parents are, what their nature is, what was the atmosphere of our house and how we were brought up. And this influences us in ways we are not even aware of.

Our personality is our family, our background and our experiences. Our likes, dislikes, triggers, turn-ons, reactions, confidence, issues have all come from our families. We are more like our parents than we would care to admit. In fact, we millennials think we are different and unique, we think your personalities are unique, haha, they're borrowed. We are the next version of your parents. We are the iPhone 8 to our parents iPhone 7. Functions are features are better, but the core is the same.

And no matter how hard we try, these things still manage to find some tiny corner in our minds, and sub-consciously affect your behaviour. You might not realise it, but if you look hard and I mean really hard you will. And that is what self-awareness is all about. Once you know the reason behind your actions, it is much easier to analyse, accept and if needed change it.

So, I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we'll never know most of them. But even if we don't have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from here. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them. 

Having said that it does not mean that we can use that as to justify our shortcomings. We can't change where we come from, but we can choose where we go from here. We can decide to be the person we want to be and be that. It will take a lot of work and effort but it can be done to a reasonable degree of success. We cannot and should not hold on to these things and try to move past them, I mean there is a statute of limitations for everything.

This might have been an abrupt sort of a post, just penning down certain things that made me think. 


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